每天读一点英文:那些给我勇气的句子 27享受独处
Alone but not lonely
It scares us more than anything except death being alone.
Our fear of aloneness is so imgrained that given the choice of being by ourselves or being with others we opt for safety in numbers,even at the expense of lingering in painful,boring,or totally unredeeming vompany.
And yet more of us than ever are alone.
While many Americans have their solo lifestyles thrust on them -----people die.people go away---a huge and growing population is choosing to be alone.
In 1955,one in ten U.S households consisted of one person.B y 1999,the proportion was one in three.Single men and women accounted for 38.9 million of the nation's 110.5 million households. By 1999.single parents with children under the age of eighteen made up 27.3 percent of the nation's 70.9 million family households .Meanwhile,many nore Americans are divorcing. In less than three decades,the number of divorced men and women has more than quadrupled --to a total of 18.3 million in 1996.compared to 4.3 million in 1970.Never before in American history has living alone been the predominant lifestyle .
Nonetheless,we persist in the conviction that a solitary existence is the harshest penalty life can mete out .Weloathe being alone---anytime,anywhere,for whatever reason. From chinldhood we're conditioned to acdept that when alone we instinctively ache for company ,that loners are outsiders yearning to get in rather than people who are content with their own company.
Alone ,we squander life by rejecting its full potential and wasting its remaining promises. Alone,we avccept that experiences unshared are barely worhtwhile ,that sunsets viewed singly are not as spectacular ,that time spent apart is fallow and pointless.
And so we frow lod beliveing we are nothing by ourselves ,steadfastly shunningt the opportunities for self--discovery and personal growth that solitude could bring us .
We have even coined a word for those who prefer to be by themselves;antisocial,as if they were enemies of society .They are viewed as friendless,suspect in a world that goes around in twos or more and is wary of solitary travelers.
People who need people are threatened by people who don't.The idea of seeking sontentment alone is heretical,for society steadfastly decrees tha our completeness lies in others .Instead ,we cling to each other for solace ,comfort ,and safety .
Ironically ,nost of us crave more intimacy and companionship than we can bear.We begrudge ourselvers, our spouses,and our partners sufficient physical and emotional breathing room ,and then bemoan the suffocation of our relationships.
To point out these facts is not to suggest we should abandon all our close ties. Medical surverys show that the majority of elderly people who live alone,yet maintain frequent contact with relatives and friends,rate their physical and emotional well--being as excellent .Just as an apple a day kept the doctor away when they were young,an active social calendar appears to serve the same purpose now .
But we need to befriend and enjoy ourselves as well.
We must relearn to be alone,Instead of planting our solitude with dream blossoms,we choke the space with continuous music and chatter to which we do not even listen .It is simply there to fill the vacuum.We can't stand the silence ,because silence includes thinking .And if we thought ,we would have to face ourselves.
Let us learn,then ,from those in search of what they have not been able to find and hold :peace of mind ,gentlenessof heart ,calmness of spirit,daily joy. Who have come to understand that to know and to love and to vbe of value to ohters .they first must know and love and value themselves ;that to find their way in the world ,they have to start by finding themselves.
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